When John Cody attended Bell High School in Ottawa and enrolled in music, the last thing he expected was to be sexually assaulted.
But after a few years of unsolicited innuendo and inappropriate advances, assaulted he was – at the age of 15 by his music teacher, Bob Clarke.
And then Cody discovered something even more shocking: not only had another family member been similarly assaulted by Clarke, but there were at least eight others – all of whom, in a Federal Court, Clarke pled guilty to abusing – and was sentenced in March 2018 to two years in federal prison. He pled guilty to two further counts of gross indecency towards two more students on March 1, 2019, bringing the total of identified victims to 10.
“It was shocking how deep this went,” said Cody.
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Read MoreBill Bell is a Canadian guitarist based in Toronto who has toured with Jason Mraz and Tom Cochrane.
A few years ago, a 51-year-old Bill Bell found himself in a crisis: the rock ‘n roll lifestyle, which he had embraced since his teens and the excesses which were readily available – alcohol, drugs, sex – suddenly caught up with him and he suffered a nervous breakdown.
“I literally lay on the floor for two months in the dark and basically sold most of my guitars to pay the rent,” Bell remembers. “It felt like my brain just flipped. I wasn’t in control anymore. I started shaking.”
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Some issues, however, can be tough to address, but allowing them to fester or build tension can lead to either of you developing poor habits and doing serious damage to the overall longevity of your relationship.
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